Jelena Dincic
There’s a lot being written about the things that classy people do. But what about what they don’t do?
I think that it’s equally important – when determining someone’s character – to take a look at what they spend their time doing, as well as what they don’t waste their time on.
So, with that in mind, let’s take a look at 15 things classy people don’t waste their time on.
1) Gossip
There’s a reason that this is on top of my list.
That reason is that classy people consider gossip to be a very ugly character trait that’s beneath them.
You see, they know that nothing good comes from gossip (generally based on hearsay). It’s a negative pastime that can be very hurtful to an individual’s feelings.
What’s more, it can damage their reputation, cause problems in their relationship, or even cost them their job.
And all for what?
For a few “exciting” and “fun” minutes between friends? No thank you – you won’t catch a classy person gossiping anytime soon.
2) Social media drama
The truth is that classy people hate drama, whether it be in their “real” lives or on social media.
And while so many people get sucked into neverending arguments on social media and may even enjoy the attention, it’s not something that classy people will go near.
Classy people don’t waste their time scrolling through social media feeds and posting comments – they don’t want to get involved in pointless arguments with random people.
In short: They have better things to do with their time.
3) Complaining
The way classy people see it, “What good can come out of complaining?”
I admit that I wholeheartedly agree.
Think about it: If you’re dealing with some kind of problem or you’re facing an injustice, complaining about it to everyone you know won’t miraculously make it disappear. The only way that will happen is by finding a solution.
So, while they may talk to people about their problems and ask for help in resolving them, they won’t bring them up just for the sake of complaining.
I know quite a few people out there that love to complain, and I swear they’re just seeking attention.
And do you know what? They’re pretty tiresome.
If you like to focus on finding solutions rather than dwelling on problems, you may just be a classy person yourself.
4) Being rude
Kinda the opposite of classy, don’t you think?
Classy people – and I mean real classy people, not people pretending to be classy just because they have money – are polite, respectful, well-mannered, and considerate of other people’s feelings. Being rude is the opposite of all that.
What’s more, rude behavior makes others feel disrespected and uncomfortable and it doesn’t reflect well on the person being rude.
Classy people know that there is nothing to be gained by being rude. If they have a problem with someone, they’ll face it head-on instead of wasting their time with passive-aggressive and petty behavior.
5) Too much TV
It’s not like classy folks don’t enjoy a good movie or Netflix binge once in a while, but they prefer to spend their free time being productive or engaging in more meaningful activities. Plus, the way they see it, if they’re gonna spend hours on the couch, they might as well be reading a good book.
Otherwise, they’ll take nature walks, do yoga or pilates, spend time with friends and family, go to art galleries and museums, and basically, spend their time wisely.
6) Holding grudges
The thing about grudges is that they don’t just harm the person they’re intended for, but they’re also detrimental to the mental well-being of the person holding on to them.
A grudge is basically a load of negative emotions and when you carry it around for long enough, believe me, you’ll feel it’s weight on your person.
And classy people know that. That’s why they make a point of forgiving people and letting go of grudges – so that they can move on with their lives feeling lighter and freer.
7) Talking about themselves excessively
With some people it’s all “ME. ME. ME”.
Well, those aren’t classy people. Those are self-centered people that can’t see that the world is much bigger than their little bubbles.
Of course, classy people will talk about themselves a normal amount when it comes up in conversation – but they’ll also take an interest in the other person, what they’re up to, and what’s happening in their lives.
All in all, classy people don’t waste their time talking about themselves, they don’t think that they’re all that interesting, and they’d much rather talk about other stuff.
8) Procrastinating
Here’s the thing: Procrastination is a waste of time and energy.
When we procrastinate, we spend a lot of time putting something unpleasant off, worrying about it the whole time. I mean, even when we delay the inevitable, it’s still there at the back of our minds, eating away at us.
Classy people understand that it’s best to just get things over and done with as soon as possible. They’re proactive and the better for it.
9) Making excuses
Making excuses for their behavior and trying to shift the blame is not classy behavior – it’s cowardly behavior
Classy people don’t waste their time on excuses, they take responsibility for their actions, own up to their mistakes, and face the consequences.
They know it’s the right thing to do, the classy thing to do.
So, it doesn’t matter if they mess up in their relationship or at work, they’re big enough to admit that they made a mistake. They’re not afraid to apologize and they’ll work hard to make things right!
10) Being late
That’s just rude.
Don’t you hate it when you come to a meeting a few minutes earlier “just in case” and then end up waiting for like half an hour? Well, I do.
But I don’t have this problem when I’m supposed to meet up with a classy person because they know that being punctual is a sign of respect and they make it a priority to be on time.
Thank you classy people!
11) Being materialistic
If you think classy people are all about fancy clothes, fast cars, and skiing in Aspen, you’re wrong. The people who are all about material things and showing off their social status aren’t classy people, they’re fake classy people.
Real classy people don’t waste their time on materialistic things.
They like nice things like everyone else but it’s not what they’re about and they certainly don’t prioritize their possessions over their relationships, life experiences, or personal growth.
12) Negative self-talk
Ask yourself what good ever came out of negative self-talk.
All it does is convince a person that they’re no good at anything, that they can’t achieve what they set out to do, and that they’re undeserving of love.
That’s why classy people don’t waste time on negative self-talk.
When they find themselves starting to think “I can’t do this” or “They’ll think I’m ridiculous” they cut themselves off immediately and replace their negative self-talk with positive self-talk or positive affirmations.
Positive affirmations are phrases that you repeat to yourself over and over again, every day… For example, “I know how to do this job. I deserve this promotion.” or “I am a kind, intelligent, and beautiful human being and I deserve to be loved”.
They work hard to build their confidence so that they can reach their goals and live fulfilling lives.
13) Being judgmental
Do you know what else truly classy people don’t waste their time on? Being judgemental!
They know that judging someone based on superficial factors such as their looks, social status, religion, sexual orientation, race, or where they come from is wrong. If they did that, they’d miss out on getting to know some really amazing people.
Classy people are all about giving everyone a fair chance and they’re genuinely interested in getting to know people from different walks of life and seeing the world from their eyes.
The bottom line is that they don’t judge a book by its cover, it’s what’s inside that counts.
14) Conforming
Look, I get what it feels like when you don’t know where you fit in… I get that people try to change themselves and conform to society’s expectations.
But by doing that, they’re basically repressing who they really are. And for what? Being liked by popular people? Being just like everyone else?
Well, classy people don’t conform. They love themselves and have accepted themselves for who they are. They don’t waste their time trying to be like everyone else or fit in.
They know who they are and if someone likes them and wants to be friends with them or work with them, great, and if they don’t, the way they see it, it’s their loss.
15) Boasting
Finally, I have to mention that classy people don’t boast. In fact, they think of boasting as very undesirable and lowly behavior.
They may have achieved quite a lot in their lives. They could be rich, famous, and successful, but one thing they’re never gonna do – not if they’re truly classy people – is brag about their achievements.
They know what they’ve done and what they have. They also know that bragging will only make other people compare themselves and feel bad if they don’t think they measure up, and what’s the use in that? Why make other people feel bad about themselves?
And there you have it, 15 things that classy people don’t waste their time on. What about you? Do you do those things or are you a classy person yourself?
